*written during the evening of September 5 until the wee hours of September 6.
I have mentioned in a previous post that lolita has strict rules about aesthetics and I intend to follow every single rule there is in order to give justice to the fashion subgroup. I really did have this dress made and well, I thought things were going well. The seamstress failed to tell me about an issue with the kimono top and ended up giving me a v-neck with kimono sleeves. So not lolita! So fail! So zetsubou! Whelp, at this rate, I am headed to Ita-dom where itas (they think they’re lolitas but they’re really not) bask in glory. That’s not a good thing. D:
Stand on itas: I know that I do get lolita wrong at some point but I do research. I attempt to get it right. I think that makes me less ita and more of a normal human attempting to do something new. Itas are the type to call any frilly dress a lolita dress and not do complete research about this style and culture. As long as you do research and do your best to get it right, you’re no ita, imo.
I admit that I didn’t get a good look at the dress before meeting up. It looked good on my phone and my sister had no other issues with it besides the obi fabric combination. BUT I had a gutfeel that it was a one-piece. I don’t mind if it is a one piece outfit that I have to slip on like a shirt but it’s a v-neck.
Obviously, I was devastated. As a customer, I had the right to be informed and to have a say in it. The seamstress simply forgot to tell me about needing more fabric and turning it into a v-neck. That’s not how you deal with customers; a customer has to be informed all the time.
The inner parts looked ok but it felt like tablecloth fabric. Very starchy. Obviously not cotton. That was another thing she failed to tell me. I asked for fabric photos but nope, no dice.
I also had to add P200 for additional fabric which I did not see. I feel like I got fooled into adding more payment.
I honestly became sad over it I couldn’t fully focus at work. It was a ruined dream and a crushed expectation. I was sad enough that I had this inkling of not wearing it (because lolita pros will be there and will certainly see it). I told my sister this and we’d try to see if we can make it work with a longer wig and limited poses.
I have other standard outfits, though, so if I get overly conscious up until the day itself, I can wear an old outfit which I have yet to talk about. Hehe. Plus, I still owe you guys a yukata photo. :3
Overall, I learned the following things:
1. PROVIDE ALL FABRICS.
2. Consistently follow-up. Be aggressive about it.
3. Ask if there are problems and if you’ll make it to your deadline.
4. Have the dress made at least a month before the event.
5. Make sure to ask for progress pictures so that you are part of the making process.
As my Mumcat told me, we’ll still enjoy tomorrow. We’re both gonna be kawaii~ XD